How To Get Good At Sex

At WH, we're here to help you make your sex life better. And, in the time of sexual wellness hitting the mainstream (see: Boots' freshly comprehensive range of sex toys and the boom of 'erotic audio', like the Dipsea app which has been downloaded 300,000 times since launching in 2018) you might be keen to speak more candidly about ways to enhance your time under the covers.

How can you learn some new sex tips for women?

Enter: our handy sex tips for women guide. FYI, these are targeted at women who have sex with men or people who have penises, but many of the points can be applied to folk of any gender. To compile them, WH spoke to sexology researcher Dr Dany Cordeau to find out the stops you need to know about, and how you can get them going.

You'll probably already know some of these sex tips for women, but we guarantee you'll learn a thing or two about some unexpected turn-ons.

When you're done here, wise up on the biggest female erogenous zones for better orgasms (or, casually leave this web page open around your partner so they swot up, too). And, if you're going it alone, this five day plan will take your masturbation game to the next level.

13 sex tips for women: how to become better in bed

1. Learn to kiss, properly

Full-on kissing boosts levels of dopamine in the brain, a desire-spiking neurotransmitter in both men and women, according to a study in The American Journal of Medicine.

To get your other half going, try this piece of sex advice: trace their lips slowly with your tongue, or softly bite the edge of their lower lip with your teeth, advises sexologist Carol Queen.

But, before you think about putting this tip to the test during a steamy summer pool sesh, you might want read on and think twice before having sex in water.

2. Play with their ears

In a survey, ears ranked just behind the scrotum as a body part that, when touched, can help men reach their peak. Who knew it was such a turn on?

Add this to your list of sex techniques: try delicately nibbling or licking their ears as they're getting closer to orgasm, while whispering something like: 'Do you like it when I touch you?'

3. Don't be scared of the scrotum

No biting or pinching, please: this area is extra vulnerable to sharp impact.

So what is up its street and worth ranking in the nine sex tips for women? Gentle sucking, squeezing or cupping, which may help some men reach climax more easily during sex, says sex coach Charlie Glickman.

When it comes to foreplay, use this technique from Harwick: 'Start with your hand around both balls, then bring your fingertips together over them – like you're picking up a napkin off the floor.'

4. Get involved in the neck

Their neck is as tingle-triggering as your own, and a study published in the journal Ergonomics found that the nape loves low-frequency vibrations.

Take advantage by kissing the back of their neck with your mouth slightly open, and hum. 'The combination of heat and vibrations will help prompt some serious sensations,' sex expert Emily Morse says.

Or dip into your toy drawer for a fingertip vibe and massage their hairline.

Things not going quite to plan? Make sure you're not making one of the six biggest mistakes couples make in the bedroom before carrying on.

5. Don't be shy with the shaft

Men rated the shaft tops for orgasmic sensitivity when compared with the rest of their nether regions, says a survey published in the journal BJU International.

Because the internal erectile tissues lie deep beneath the skin's surface, when it comes to how to get your grip on, the best sex tips for women will tell you that many guys like the shaft handled pretty firmly. Form a fist around it, moving up and down and adding pressure as you go.

6. Pay their nipples some attention

They'd like a little TLC, FYI. Men who were surveyed for a study in the journal Cortex admitted that the nips are one of their top hot spots.

Queen suggests sucking on one while stroking your their penis with your hand. 'Adding the two erogenous zones together can be very pleasurable,' she says.

7. Get involved with the head

The head of the penis, or the glans, has significantly more nerves than the shaft, so don't skimp on the attention. (The tip is basically the closest thing a person with a penis has to a clitoris, though it's not nearly as sensitive, says Cordeau. We win in that department.)

After coating your fingers in lube, 'loop them into an O shape and slide them over the glans', Queen advises. Then use short, slow pumps that tighten around the tip.

During oral, run your tongue all over the glans and use some soft suction.

How much is too much? Read one woman's experience: I Tried To Have Sex Twice A Day For A Week – Here's What Happened.

8. Hit a bum note

Glickman calls the prostate gland (located a finger's length inside the bum) the 'male G-spot' in his book The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure.

To hit this orgasm-inducing region, you'll need to insert a (well-lubricated) digit into your man's behind, directed toward the front of his body, says Queen.

If neither you nor him is up for that, you can also stimulate the prostate by touching the perineum.

9. Have a perineum party

Located behind the scrotum and before his rear entry, this spot contains a gent's ejaculatory muscles – which, when massaged, can make his blast-off feel even more intense, says Glickman.

Try Morse's oral-sex advice: 'Use your thumb to gently rub the perineum in a circular motion, keeping in rhythm with what your mouth is doing. Right before he is about to finish, press the spot firmly to give him an orgasm to top all orgasms.'

Then ask for anything you want in return, obvs.

10. Try dirty talk

If you fancy trying something new, how about giving dirty talk a whirl? 'Erotica and pornography are great sources of inspiration for examples of dirty talking, and to figure out what kind of dirty talking arouses you,' says Silva Neves, an Accredited Psychosexual and Relationship Psychotherapist.

And might we also suggest a second viewing of Bridgeton for some simple – yet, sexy – one-liners? Although, you might not need inspo from external sources. 'The brain is the main sexual organ, so looking at your own sexual fantasies non-judgementally might be another place where you'll find a lot of inspiration,' Neeves adds.

11. Give them a tantric massage

Incorporating a sensual tantric massage into your repertoire can be super sexy. It's a little complex to go into, here, but consult the full WH guide, here.

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12. Suggest a new position

If you're in a long-term partnership, bringing in some novelty is key, when it comes to achieving a sex life that sustains the same thrill as when you first got together. One way to make you feel better in bed is by knowing which positions work for you – and so which to instigate. Check out WH's guide to the 26 best sex positions, ever, for some inspiration.

13. Master phone sex

If you don't live with the person you're having sex with, and want to maintain that spark of sexual connection, then hit up Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and Psycho-Sexologist, Kate Moyle's (@katemoyletherapy) complete guide to steamy phone sex.

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